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3.2.16

MUM TALES | Breastfeeding in public? What's the big deal







I was at lunch with a friend, and we got to talking about breastfeeding in public. She's not a mum herself and doesn't delve much into social media but was shocked at the fact that recently she had seen so many posts concerning, shaming or discussing breastfeeding and couldn't understand the outrage. 

Sadly the birth of social media has given idle minds with no sense a platform to voice their opinion, and spew offense and hatred to breastfeeding mothers.

The general offence seems to be that breastfeeding has somehow become sexualised. You know the whole idea of a breast being sucked on, no you narrow minded people, comprehend that breasts are not only for the purpose of sexual stimulation.  Although the most natural way to feed a new born it seems those that penalise mothers for public ally breastfeeding cannot seem to seperate the idea of a breast and as natural form of nutrition for a baby. 

It's almost ridiculous in fact that no one will blink at seeing a woman with cleavage, a see through or crop top, even those leggings that stretch so much they expose "becky's" underwear, but will double take a mother who wishes nourish and calm her hungry child.

When did society become so backwards, or has it always been this way and social media has scratched off the surface and pulled away the mask? 

One thing I do know about breastfeeding is even though it is encouraged, it is notably difficult. Babies are difficult. Motherhood is difficult. Not only does it take many attempts to have your child latch on it also hurts like hell in the first few weeks, I salute anyone who does this, because it's mentally and physically straining in the first few months. So imagine the frustration when some judgemental individual expects you to cover your baby's head so they sweat whilst they eat (and pull the cover off about twenty times) or that you should let the hunger cries continue until you get home. It's enough to throw in the towel and make you want to give in and bottle feed.

Facebook was in uproar when the breastfeeding selfie came about, you would think the women were posing nude. Even if the women were not showing any part of their breast. 

 Let us not add on to a list of things that will make things more difficult. Now I'm not a breastfeeding basher, I know they are bottle babies who do fine and this post isn't about which is best. It's just that a lot of stigma surrounds breastfeeding and makes it seem so unnatural to the point mothers feel embarrassed to feed their babies. 

As a new mom it takes a lot to feel yourself again let alone take your baby out in public, that being met by disapproving looks would make even the most confident and BeyoncĂ© of women want to shrivel up in a corner, or even feed in a dirty public toilet to avoid prying eyes. Next time you see a woman feeding her child, try to smile at her it might be all the encouragement she needs. 


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14.12.15

Ten Reasons why mums hate Christmas




1. We plan everything and not only does Santa take the credit, dad just gets to do the fun parts.

2. Writing 30 kids Christmas cards knowing full well the kids don't give a stuff, but social etiquette forces you, and you don't want your daughter to be the rude one who doesn't give Christmas card in class. 

3. How much is too much? Do I buy everything I see, is three presents enough? Are ten presents too much? Seriously where is the appropriate present scale when buying your children gifts 

4. Having to pretend you are happy with the amount of gifts aka new clutter your child will be bored of by January.

5. You think really hard and get the family thoughtful presents you know they have wanted all year and what do they get you..a bath gift set......thanks!

6. As if curating a Christmas menu to please everyone's taste buds wasn't enough you also have to some how homemade a Christmas alien outfit within two weeks.

7. Trolling Pinterest for said Christmas menu ideas and endlessly watching Nigella specials knowing full well your chestnut stuffed turkey will NOT look like that. 

8. Having to  along to Christmas songs whilst you drown out your child's "mum can Santa get me..." Questions and pretending you don't know that people are judging you. 

9. That bloody santas grotto queue, where you wait for 2 hours for a five minute experience, but endure it so that your child has picture evidence you cared about them when they were younger. 

10. Breaking your resolutions by rewarding yourself with wine everytime you don't answer your mother in law back! 

Hope all the mummies are enjoying the countdown to Christmas !! 
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3.12.15

STYLE S.O.S | 23 DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS| BLOGMAS









I'm sure my my kids think I am crazy, or if they don't yet they soon will. The morning school run almost makes me seem bipolar.. I go from screaming "I told you to put that jacket on!!" to "what are you excited about school today sweetie?". Theres something about rushing to get to school before the gate closes and your child is marked late that puts pressure on you  as a mum you suddenly become irrational, irate at the smallest detail.  Even something as insignificant as a button not being done correctly or why is your scarf not next to your hat. I have turned to counting up to ten mentally before having getting annoyed over spilled milk, literally!  I find it makes my mornings run smoother and my daughter doesn't go into school anxious. 


I think there is so much pressure on mums at times to not only look great themselves also ensure their child looks decent for schools, has all the bits and bobs Miss gave the kids to bring back into school, and goodness help us if we have another child to prepare for the cold in the morning. 

I like my converse aka chucks a little rugged I hate prestige white converse and admire those who can keep them that way. I think the shirt in picks up the red from the converse and who can't resist a parka jacket in this weather. Nice and practical outfit.



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27.11.15

STYLE S.O.S | 29 DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS





                                       
                   

My goodness the amount of emails I have received in regards to Black Friday this week deserve a record, the retailers are going in for the kill. I haven't bought anything as yet and I am trying to resist the temptation to shop for now. I hope I stay strong until cyber Monday. It's almost as if all humanity loses its marbles at the expense of a great bargain, I was outraged at the video of the women fighting over a steamer where a lady grabbed it from the child's hands. When will this madness end? I'm all for a great bargain but thank goodness I didn't go into any shops today. 

I had a few errands to run, and ended my day with a festive soy toffee nut latte from Starbucks. As I was pushing the Pram I managed to handle an over the knee boot with a little heel but they are great options currently on the market for flat boots too. Have a look at my post on over the knee boots all under £60.  I'm quite proud that it's day 3 now and I've managed to actually make an effort, one lovely lady on Instagram empathised and took up the challenge stating that when she did dress up, other mums thought she was attending an interview.... lol. We've all been there @lucyfinn. Let's steer clear of being the leggings and slouchy tops brigade and show that making making an effort with our style isn't only for special occasions. 

I love my sleeveless jacket, it goes well with a long sleeved top, upgrades my outfit and the belt cinches in my waist. The boots were an absolute steal at £20 in primark,  but were bought earlier this year. Everything I'm wearing is from topshop except the boots. I'll link outfit details below. 

Are you guys grabbing any bargains, are you an online shopper or do you prefer to shop in store? Let me know on Instagram if you are doing this challenge with the hashtag #mumstylechallenge. 





JACKET | JEANS | BOOTS | BLOUSE 
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26.11.15

STYLE S.O.S | 30 days until Christmas







I love Thursday's because they signify that the week is almost over and I can have a mini lie-in during the weekend.

 Continuing on with my challenge and I have made it to day two, I had quite an active day, I signed Logan up to weekly swimming lessons,  today was his  second. I want him to be a confident swimmer and it's a great way to bond with him without the distraction of my phone or television. 

The lesson went swimmingly - pun intended,  until one overcautious mother made me paranoid, it always amazes me that some mothers will think of the worst case scenario, and share it with other mother's knowing what effect it will have, but adding "I don't mean to scare you"...of course you don't Sandra,    but I'll save that rant for another post. 

He is becoming used to the water. So many child parent activities involve a lot of fake smiling and singing to your children, to reinforce happiness and positivity, by the time I'm finished my cheeks hurt. 

 As I was going to be in the water with him I did my hair in a side braid and was so pleased with the curls it gave my hair when I came out.  The weather wasn't as extreme as it was this past weekend so I was able to get away with a leather jacket, I threw on a game of thrones slogan t-shirt, and some black jeans and wedge sneakers. Quite a simple and practical outfit. Click the links below to shop a similar style. I'm going to sign off and prepare for the madness that is black Friday.  





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25.5.15

Styling the Bump: Bank Holiday Monday










I've Challenged my self this week to at least try and upload daily looks through the half term holiday for maternity style. A shirt dress is the epitome of effortless chic, I love how you can just throw it on and find a few pieces to go that will make it look put together. 

Shirt Dress: Asos - find here
Sandals: Asos - find here 
Leather Jacket: TopShop - find here 
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